How to Change Your Day After a Terrible Start

Have you ever woken up in a bad mood? The day proceeds and you feel worse and worse. Everything around you feels like it’s crumbling.

But I want to take you back to that moment when you stepped out of bed. At that point you could have made a different choice that would have changed your day.

Because here’s the truth of the matter: Perspective is a choice! The more you believe that things are good or bad, the more that things become good or bad! (Tweet)

Each time you voice your thoughts you’re making a choice to reinforce how you view the world. Often it does not feel like a choice, it feels like a fact that is beyond your control.

And your small being is watching. How you view your capacity for change will seep into your small being’s perspective. If you want your small being to rise above feeling cranky or grouchy, then you need to model it for them.

Back to your bedside. You feel terrible and have about five minutes to make a choice before your kids wake up. Will a hot shower make you feel better? A giant cuddle from your small being? A big cup of coffee? A dance party?

I’ve been known to have dance parties at 6:30 a.m. when I’ve woken up on the wrong side of the bed. While my neighbors may think I’m crazy, some days it’s needed.

Be the model for your small beings. Let them know that you’re cranky and that you’re going to have a dance party to feel better. Invite them to join. It’s hard to not smile watching your own small being dance early in the morning. Let them know how that party changed how you felt.


Insight Into Action!

Write down 10 different actions you can take to make you feel better when you’re feeling blue. Put this list somewhere handy. Then use it when you’re not feeling so great.

Let your small beings know this plan, so they can help remind you to use it when you need it. You can also remind them to use one of the actions when they need to; as Taylor Swift says, shake if off!


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