Behavior During the Holidays: A Special Guest Post with Sarah Jordan

The holidays are a great time for family bonding, parties and visiting relatives. The problem? This is a time where kids might be a little “stir crazy” and may need some help engaging with others in a constructive way.

Even though we love the holidays, it's a time that brings stress. Kids are sensitive and they will absorb your stress like little sponges. This stress causes kids to have extra energy. The energy that's not used will lead to bad behavior.

So in order to prevent your little angel from using grandma’s couch as a trampoline or swinging from the chandelier, read on for three proven tools and techniques you can use to empower your kids in a healthy and constructive way.

Check in with yourself. Are you a walking, talking frazzled ball of stress right now? Are you anxious about anything (or everything)? Your child might not be a mind-­reader, but they are reading your energy, loud and clear. (Tweet) Stressed out parents have stressed out kids. What can you do?

1. Practice power poses together: Power poses are simple and take all of 10 seconds to do. Here’s how: Stand up nice and tall with your hands on your hips. Make sure your feet are at least shoulder width apart.

Best of all research shows that power poses promote calmness and confidence. Make it a game. Have fun impersonating your child’s favorite super hero.

2. Exercise together: Put on some fun music and dance before you leave the house for that family gathering. If you want your children to sit down and be calm, then you have to wear them out! No rhythm? No problem! Use a jump rope or hula hoops. Both of these activities excite the cells, which makes them healthier.

3. Breathe properly: Did you know that most people breathe with their upper bodies instead of with their bellies? Breathing improperly creates panic and and stress. Breathing correctly creates calmness. To breathe correctly, place your hand on your belly. When you inhale, your stomach should puff out. When you exhale, your stomach should go back down to normal. You can practice this with your kids when they are at the dinner table, in the car or anywhere. If you know that you're going to encounter something stressful such as loud music, strangers or anything that might cause your child to misbehave, then it is the precise time to say, “Let’s practice our belly breathing for a few minutes.”

Try out these simple, fun and constructive exercises for yourself. These tips have worked for thousands of my students worldwide. I know they can help you too.

For more fun and practical easy tips to help parents and kids, check out The Bully Remedy online course.

Sarah Maccarelli Jordan is the creator of and Sarah’s work has helped thousands of families and children worldwide. She is thrilled to combine her love of Psychology and Dance in a way that benefits parents and children.

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Sarah and I would love to know: What was your experience with your small being practicing power posts? Exercise? Breathing? What other techniques have you used to create


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