Here’s a Quick Way to Say No to Your Child

Too much of a good thing can really be too much!

A few weekends ago I went to the Jersey Shore. I decided: I’m on vacation and will eat what I want.

Oh, and how I did!

The first day I ate ice cream twice, as well as again on the second and third day.

To top it off, when as I decreased my ice cream intake I increased my portions of fried boardwalk treats. I was like a little kid without a parent.

After the third day I felt so sick and turned to my friend, “Why did you let me do that?”

She laughed at me and made a witty remark, “How am I supposed to correct a behavior therapist’s behavior? Especially one who sometimes teaches feeding skills!”

We both laughed. I laughed so hard that tears ran down my face.

But isn’t it hard to say “no,” to yourself and to your small being?

Can you think of a time when your small being asked you for something he or she really wanted? She begged you for it and said it was the most important thing to her.

Did you give in? Be honest!

I bet you did or at least sometimes you do. I’m here to remind you to listen to what I call your “big-being voice.” (Tweet) This voice inside your head wants to set limits and to say “no” when your small being asks for things that are not best for him.

Accept any behavior problems that come from your answer. While your small being may never fully appreciate all you have done to protect her, you know that you have saved her more than just a bellyache by saying no :)

Insight into Action!

When was the last time you said “no” to your small being’s request? How did it go?


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