She Can't Tell Me Why She Did It!

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Do you ask your kids why they did something all day long and never get a satisfying answer? Then join me because I will give you that answer and help you get satisfaction in the future!!

This week's Magic Monday Morning, on my Facebook page - Dr. Marcie Beigel is Scenario 8 in Love Your Family Again, my new book, which will be released on November 15, 2017!

Scenario 8 is all about how to approach your children when all you want to do is ask WHY! Also, you will get all the insights about my upcoming Behavior Bootcamp on October 28th and 29th, where we will be diving in and exploring exactly how behavior works and creating about action-based plans for you and your family! 

My Children Need ALL of My Attention!

So, I started this new thing... It is called Magic Monday Mornings!! I will be on my Facebook Page - Dr. Marcie Beigel, hosting a Facebook Live Event every Monday morning starting at 8 am! We will celebrate your accomplishments and find ways to do it better when your weekend came with some bumps!

Each Monday, I will also be reading a chapter from my new book, Love Your Family Again, releasing on November 15, 2017! I just can't wait for it to be published!! 

This week's Magic Monday Morning was Scenario 5 in Love Your Family Again. This scenario is all about the children that need ALL of your attention. Join me each Monday for new scenarios and practical behavior tools for you and your family! 

Watch below for your weekly dose of magic!!

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How to Get Your Children to Stop Crying

As we know, when children cry it's not always because something is wrong.

The truth is children cry for many reasons.

A parent recently submitted a question for my Ask Me Anything series* about what she should do when her child cries as a form of manipulation.

That child is a smart cookie; he knows crying works to give him what he wants.

There is a way to stop this behavior pattern!

Click below to find out the simple way to stop the tears and keep your kids on task.

Insight Into Action!

Parents: When will you begin the process with your kid?

Teachers: What is one circumstance where you will begin the process with one particular student?

 

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How to Get Kids to Do Their Homework: Behavior Strategy Demo

With school comes homework ... and with many small beings that also means nightly fights. Now that the school year is upon us, the homework battles can be epic. Your small being pulls out every excuse imaginable as to why they can not and will not do their assignments.

It can be trying for even the most patient parents.

So this week I'm not only giving but showing you how to get your kids to do their homework without argument.

Watch below!
 

Insight Into Action!

Parents and Teachers: Which part of this strategy will you use with the small beings in your life?

 

Feedback? Thoughts? Comments? Email me at: Info@BehaviorAndBeyond.net

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How to Get Kid to Clean Up

As the 2017 school year is upon us, I want to share one of my favorite topics with you!

One of the top complaints I hear from families and teachers is:

“My kids just won’t clean up after themselves.”

It does take a lot of energy to clean up after small beings so that frustration is certainly warranted.

But there’s something important to know about cleaning: it’s not a skill, like a language that is simply absorbed by observing those around you.

Children must be taught how to clean up after themselves.

I outlined my best strategy for teaching kids this valuable lesson!

Click below to find out what it is.

Insight Into Action!

Parents: When exactly do you want to instruct your kiddo how to clean up?

Teachers: What is one activity after which you will begin instructing your little ones how to clean up?

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How to Tell Your Kid "NO!" Effectively

No one likes to hear or say “no.”

When you say it you feel like you might have disappointed or upset someone.

Being able to say and stick to “no” is one of the most common lessons I teach to parents. Small beings are persistent and so darned cute! It makes saying "no" extremely difficult.

In this week’s blog I will teach you about how to make your “no” stick every time!

Insight Into Action!

Parents: How did you shift the quality of your "no"?

Teachers: What is one way you can be more effective with saying "no" to requests from your students?

 

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Know your Destination!

"Knowing what you want your kids to do, is more powerful than just knowing what you want them to stop."

In my private practice parents are calling all the time to discuss reducing, eliminating or stopping problem behaviors. This might be why you read my blog. You want support in getting the yelling to stop or the hitting or the rudeness. It all just needs to go away!

I hear you! I am here to help you get exactly that!

The first question I usually ask a family next is, what do you want instead?

This is a critical question! Because behavior does not just disappear, it has to be replaced. If you stop of small being from yelling, they are going to start talking more. When you stop the rudeness, your small being will start saying please and thank you more. 

When you want to stop a behavior, the first thing to determine is what do you want to happen instead. 

Once you have that answer, then you can change the behavior!

It is that simple!

The challenge is that so many grown ups want to focus on only the problem. Discussing and reviewing and directing the problem. When you do that, you end up focusing on the problem behavior. You see what you are looking for. As Dr. Richard Bandler says, “If you focus on problems, you sure will find them"

To change behavior you have to focus on the replacement behavior. In order to do that, you need to know what behavior you want to use for the replacement. Then build towards that behavior. 

My favorite example of this is preschool boys on the playground. The often get in trouble for playing rough. They are told, “No playing ninjas” and “No cops and robbers”. They are also told “No super hero games” and “No karate practice”. When you ask them what they are playing, they look all confused. They have no idea what to play. Often, I will suggest, “What about tag?” Their eyes light up and off they run. 

All they need is one idea of how to run around the playground and not get in trouble. When they are only told what not to play, they are stuck. When they are told what to play, they can succeed!

Start telling your small beings what to play! Give them a destination and watch the behavior change!!

In the United States - Today is a Big Day!!

Today is a time full of families and Bar-b-Que’s and Fireworks. We sure do know how to celebrate today!

Ever stop and think about what we are actually celebrating. It is the nations birthday, it is the best birthday party ever! It is also independence day, celebrating independence as a birthday gift. What a gift it is!!

Sit down with your small beings today, maybe in-between corn on the cob and some potato salad and make a list of the freedoms your family is grateful for. Highlighting this for your children is powerful to teach them to recognize the gifts in their life.

So many families call me and ask about how to teach their children to appreciate their life and all the advantages they have. This is how you do it. One conversation at a time. Just remember you need to keep having the conversations about the gifts and joys and magic in their lives.

I will start you off:

1. I am grateful for the freedom of speech! (it allows me to share my views)

2. Thank you for the freedom of education! (children around the country have schools to attend because that is a freedom in our country) 

3. Thank you for independent publishing (it is how i published my book, Love Your Classroom Again)

4. I am grateful for independence in travel! (Plane or train or bus, I can move around the country safety to visit friends and family)

5. Independence of choice! (we get to choice what we have for breakfast, what clothes to wear and what tv show to watch…so many many many choices in our lives)

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You finish the list! Let me know you what you add…would love to hear it!!

The Secret to Clean-Up Time

Sometimes it feels that kids don’t want to clean up.

You tell them fifty times to put away their blocks and they still don’t do it.

It feels like they are being defiant, but what I’ve found in my practice, both in-person and online, is that small beings often simply don’t know how to clean up.

The fact is, what is logical to you, is not always logical to a small being. You might instinctively know where to start, but often they’re sitting there doing nothing because they’re baffled!

Don’t believe me? Hear it from a small being, the Behavior + Beyond resident actress.

Insight Into Action!

Parents: When will you commit to teaching your kid the right way to clean up?

Teachers: How can you make clean up a part of your daily lesson plan and/or classroom routine?

 

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