Dr. Marcie reads from her new book Love Your Family Again. Action based tools are provided so you can make changes in your families life today! This chapter talks about the ever lasting question - Can Behavior Really Change. The answer is - of course. In the video learn why that is true.
I woke up this morning at 3:30 am.
Wish I could say it was for something fabulous, but it wasn't. For the past 7 days, my sleep has been all over the place. I'm up when everyone else in NYC is asleep and asleep when everyone is up. It was ok over the weekend but during the work week, it is creating some interesting caffeine habits.
Thankfully, I know why this is happening. I spent two weeks on the other side of the earth and my body is taking its time to adjust to Eastern Standard Time.
One of the things that is keeping me going is my routine. I have a strong morning routine and evening routine when I am home. Getting back into those habits, along with some self-discipline is a life saver.
What does that actually mean?
It means that while I woke up at 3:30 in the morning, I did not let myself get out of bed until 6:30am. When I did get out of bed, I did my morning routine (shower, get dressed, meditate, breakfast...). Acting as if it was a normal day and not like I had already been up for 3 hours. Knowing what normal means is super helpful.
What is your normal? What are the habits that you can go back to when things feel wacky?
This week, I read the last chapter from Love Your Family Again. It is all about the solid foundational elements that make you great! Yes, it is framed around how to be a great parent, but while you listen think about the other areas of your life where you can use these same tools to build amazingness!
Check out the video. After watching the video, your action step is to go to Amazonand get your copy of Love Your Family Again. It is a #1 Best Seller!
As a kid, I always thought that my parents had all the answers. Teachers knew everything. Adults overall had some magic way of knowing what to do all the time.
Turns out - we don't!
There is no ultimate right answer that you always know or correct way to do things. Gosh, even as I write this blog, I wonder if I am writing the right thing to entice you to watch the video I made about this topic.
Some days, I wish there was someone to tell me the right answer, so that I know I am making all the right decisions. If I stay thinking about that long enough, I get overwhelmed.
So many decisions each and every day need to be made.
Rather than waiting for someone to confirm that I am making the right answer, I find my way out of overwhelm and back into action. This is how I handle overwhelm. Deciding what the next small step is and doing that. Again and again and again.
Maybe feeling overwhelmed is a good thing. It means that you have a full and rich life. Rather than cutting back on life, lets just find a way to juggle more balls!
Check out this video - another chapter from Love Your Family Again - where I dive deeper into how to face overwhelm. After watching the video, your next action step can be to go to Amazon and get your copy of Love Your Family Again.
Are you a parent who struggles with how to play with your child?
Play does not come easy to many adults.
In the moments when there is time to connect with your kids, it is important that you know how to sit down, have fun and play a game with them. Here is a behavior demo of how to play and bond with your child!
It is the actions we take that show people around us who we are! It is also our actions that show others around us how to behave in our presence.
Do you find yourself frustrated by how your children treat you? Are you beside yourself with how they speak to you? Over and over and over again, I hear from parents that their kids are rude. Parents are shocked at the tone their kids use, the language they use and the manners they have.
I don't always know where kids learn this behavior, though I have some suspicions.
I do know how to change the behavior!
First, you need to model what you want. If you want your kids to be polite to you, you MUST be polite to them. Think about it, do you say please and thank you when speaking with your kids?
Second, you need to teach them directly. Don't hope they figure it out, spell it out for them. Talk about the behavior your want to see, over and over and over again.
Third, put the teaching into practice. As in, you create situations for your small one to practice the skills you want them use.
If you want your kids to say please and thank you - then you need to use them, talk about using them and then practice your kids using them.
For more details on exactly how to do this, check out my video from this week! It is Chapter 10 from Love Your Family Again. I share the best way to teach your kids to say please and thank you every time!
Have you listened to Keaton Jones? Have you watched the video?
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Last week, Keaton Jones a middle schooler sat in his car with his mother and shared a story. His story of being bullied. It was honest and open. It shows the pain he experienced. How amazing and brave he is to share this moment with the world!
Millions have watched his video. Millions have reached out to this amazing boy and offered friendship, compassion and their own stories of bullying.
It is all very touching!
Yet, as I read through the posts, I see a huge question that goes unanswered - What do we do create a change?
Let's not just share stories about bullying. Let's not just share compassion for the struggle that countless are going through.
Let's share answers and change this behavior!
There are so many ways to stop bullying...
1. As adults we need to model kindness and compassion. Too often we model negative conversations that our children repeat. Be aware of your words. How would those words sound if it came out of your child's mouth.
2. Have the ongoing conversation with your children about what is amazing about their classmates and peers. It is unique when this conversation happens within your family or about friends. Name 3 things amazing about your best friend is one of my favorite questions to ask kids. It is unheard of to have this type of conversation about classmates your kids don't get along with. This is a way to stop bullying - find the good in anyone. Take the time to make this a daily conversation. It is perfect dinner conversation!
3. Pay attention to what is being said by others. Listen to conversations and step in when it is unkind. Be bold enough to intervene, even if it is not your place. Dare to interject. Too many bullying situations are done within earshot of someone who chose to stay silent. Don't let this be you!
4. Know that ALL behavior can change. Zero tolerance for bullying does not solve this problem. Those who bully need support to change. Don't write off a bully as a bad seed or bad person, they are not. They have bad behavior that needs to be addressed. Find a way to teach kindness, to teach compassion, to teach how to be a good friend. For bullying to truly stop, the conversation needs to include all parties - the bullies, the bullied and the bystanders.
5. Your turn...fill in number 5...how else can we come together and stop bullying....share your answers below...
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Last week was a friends birthday. As a gift I got her a huge bunch of balloons. Living in New York City, I walk for most of errands.
Yes, you got the picture right, I was walking down the street with huge bunch of balloons. Did I mention that one of them was a singing balloon? Yup, it sings Happy Birthday, loud and clear. So I was walking down the street with a huge bunch of balloons playing Happy Birthday.
New Yorkers can be really friendly, especially when you carry lots of balloons. So many people wished me happy birthday. Others just smiled at the balloons. I smiled back. I said thank you for the birthday wishes.
Honestly, mostly I laughed at myself as I bopped along the way to my friends festivities. It was such a great adventure and the birthday party had not even started yet!
When was the last time you had such an adventure? When was the last time you created this type of adventure with your small beings?
Finding positive moments to have fun is critical to creating a happy family and raising amazing kids. Some adults, are not so great at seeing the opportunities for excitement. If that is you, this weeks blog is especially for you!
This week I read Part 3 from my new book Love Your Family Again. Some side commentary and interjections are made to bring the chapter to life!
Have you been to one of my workshops? Have you seen me speak? Have you met me in person? If you have, you know that I don't sit still. I am often in motion.
I was recently given the complement that I don't walk, I bounce. Most days that is true. Life is just too exciting to walk everywhere :) So I have more than just a little bounce in my step!
As an adult, it is a compliment that I embrace. If I was a small being, it would a very different story. Chances are, I would get in lots of trouble for the amount of motion my body is in. Either at home or school, kids are asked to be still often.
One of the chapters of my new book is about exactly this behavior - sitting still. I don't want to give too many details away but sometimes the behavior problem lies in the hands of the adults not the children. Check out this weeks blog to find out exactly what I mean.
This week I read Chapter 2 from my new book Love Your Family Again. Some side commentary and interjections are made to bring the chapter to life.
id you hear that it is a #1 Best Seller?!? If you have not ordered your copy of Love Your Family Again yet - get it on Amazon NOW!!
You have heard me talk about doing a Happy Dance to celebrate your child's accomplishments. Taking steps to celebrate is critical. Last week, my new book, Love Your Family Again was released and became a number one best seller!!
I was in a training with Lisa Nichols, learning how to make an even bigger impact on the world. When she created a space for my ultimate happy dance!! She also spoke about the impact of Love Your Family Again can have in the world. I am so touched by her encouragement, enthusiasm and vision.
How you celebrate the steps you take, is just as important as the work you put into each step! This was a fantastic celebration!!
One of the most popular questions I get asked from parents is: Have you ever seen a kid as bad as mine? My answer is always the same - Your kiddo is amazing! The behavior could use some work.
There is a big difference between bad kids and bad behavior. The first one, bad kids don't exist. No child is trying to get in trouble or be bad. They did not become evil or are not so set in their behavior that it can't change.
Behavior can be bad.
Here is the good news: ALL behavior can change.
This means, that your child is never a bad human. They might just need some new ways to behave. If that is the case, you are in in the right place!
Check out this video - its chapter 13 from my new book, Love Your Family Again.
Dr. Marcie reads from her new book Love Your Family Again. Action based tools are provided so you can make changes in your families life today! This chapter talks about the difference between bad kids and bad behavior. Your child might do bad things, but that does not make him/her a bad kid. Get the concrete tools to change your perspective, so you can change the problem behavior.