Rose Quartz is My Favorite!

Tuesday night a dear friend texted me. She said she was having a really tough January and was hoping I was open for dinner that night.

I was! My plan had been to go to the gym and cook dinner, which easily moved to the back burner.

We made a plan to meet at a Mexican restaurant because guacamole makes everything a little easier.

When I arrived she was on the phone with her sister. She looked up, waved and motioned that she just needed a minute. I had no idea what was going on and could tell this call was connected to why she wanted to have dinner.

So I looked over the menu, ordered a drink and guacamole, and waited.

She hung up, took a deep breath, and said, “Hi. How are you?”

I shook my head. “Ummm, I’m fine. How are you? What’s going on?”

We sat and talked and ate. There were tears and frustration, overwhelm and wishes for things to be different, occasionally a joke that made her smile.

It was a lot. I was glad she called and asked to meet.

As we were paying the bill, I found a piece of rose quartz in my bag.

Rose quartz is said to carry the vibration of universal love
. I almost always have some with me. When I touch rose quartz, I feel a wave of love wash over me. Sure, maybe it is a placebo effect. As in because I have the expectation, I create the feeling. Either way, I feel more supported when it is near me. Back to the story…

I took the rose quartz out of my bag and held onto it. As we are putting on our coats, I gave it to my friend.

She looked at me, wondering what I just handed her.

I said, “It is rose quartz, for love. Seems like you could use a little extra right now. Just put it in your pocket.”

Tears filled her eyes again. She said, “Why is it that I cry every time someone does something nice for me?”

Taking a breath, I responded, “Because your heart is broken. When someone does something nice for you, it touches your heart and you feel the pain of your broken heart.”

There was a long silence. Then a big hug.

We walked out the door and into the cold New York air.

Once she was safely on her way home, I started to walk home. My heart felt heavy and I realized it was not just from this dinner. So many people are having really hard personal moments right now.

Part of me thinks that is a reflection of what is happening on a bigger scale. To me the world has more pain and feels more uncertain and divided than I ever remember.

Part of me knows the reason does not matter. The acknowledgement does. If you are having a hard time right now, know that you are not alone!

It is important for us to feel our pain, move through our grief, and sit in confusion. It is also important to find small moments of ease, and love, and clarity.

The rose quartz did not take away my friend’s pain. It did give her a small spark of love and temporary ease of pain. This is the dance. This is the way to move through hard moments. Seeing the truth of the pain and creating sparks of love that help fuel our steps forward.

That night, when I got home I put another piece of rose quartz in my bag…so I am ready for the next time I feel inspired to give tangible love.

That night, I also found myself picking up a journal that I had not opened in months. It was my gratitude journal. For about a year, almost every night I wrote 5 things I was grateful for from that day. I also wrote magical moments, moments of synchrony that felt like gifts from the universe. My last entry was August 18, 2024.

It was time to start again. Writing what I am grateful for helps me see the sparks of love in my life. It reminds me that even on the darkest of days there is goodness in my life. I do my best to have some of my gratitudes be from specific things that happened that day (a call from a friend I was missing or the delicious chocolate I had as I walked out my door). Yet, some of my gratitudes are more general (the unconditional love from my mother or having a safe home that is warm and full of memories). 

The golden nuggets for you this week:

1. You are not alone – in your heartbreak and in your joy, I am here to walk with you through both. 

2.Find small sparks of love in your moments of pain. Our days are not full of all of one or all of the other. Whether it is holding a stone with special meaning or thinking about what you are grateful for, you can create good in the hardest of times.

3. Gratitude journals work – at least they work for me. Try it! For 1 week, each night write down 3-5 things that you are grateful for. See if that shifts anything for you. Yes, they can be cheesy and that does not take away from their effectiveness.

If you want to talk or if there is any additional way I can support you during this moment when so many seem to be struggling – know that I am here and would be honored to talk about how I can help make this moment just a little easier.

Sending you love 

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